I work with a broad range of behavioral, emotional, cognitive, learning, and medical disorders affecting individuals, couples, and families.

In addition to clinical training, I have advanced training in pastoral counseling, financial education, employee assistance and crisis management.  I have completed Level 3 Training in Gottman Method Couples Therapy, am currently on the certification track of becoming a Gottman Certified Therapist and use Gottman Method Couples Therapy in my work. I also am approved to facilitate the Prepare/Enrich assessment to help empower premarital and married couples.  I also work with clergy, pastors and church leaders.

I have been trained directly by Patrick Carnes and am a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT) with the International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals.  I am also an Employee Assistance Specialist - Clinical (EAS-C) through the Employee Assistance Professional Association and trained in Employee Assistance Program Critical Incident Response 3 (Resiliency) Approach by Robert Douglas.  I am a consultant for R3 Continum and am trained in Advanced Individual Crisis Intervention and Peer Support.  I work directly with first responders as a volunteer mental health peer for the Northern Illinois Critical Incident Stress Management Team.  I use clinical supervision which expands clinical expertise, judgment and quality of care.

Over time, I have found individuals who are most able to benefit from our work together:

  • Offer and receive direct and honest feedback

  • Try new behaviors which may be uncomfortable

  • Understand no person (including a counselor) can "fix" another person

  • Appreciate a sense of humor

  • Are able to demonstrate honesty, authenticity and vulnerability

As with any relationship, therapy works best when there is trust, mutual respect, and a sense of connection. If you think we may be a good fit to work with one another, call me at 224-639-2607 or email me at Patrick@PatrickAmesCounseling.com to set up a 15-minute complimentary phone consultation. This phone call is used to assess the goodness of fit of a therapeutic match, not for treatment or diagnosis. If we find that we are not a good fit at the end of this phone call, I will give you referrals of therapists that might be a better match for you.

Common Struggles

  • affairs/betrayal

  • family conflict

  • grief/loss/bereavement

  • infidelity

  • intimacy disorders

  • pornography addiction

  • physical, sexual, emotional abuse

  • premarital counseling

  • secrets that are hurting your life and relationships

  • self-esteem issues

  • separation/divorce

  • sex addiction

Gottman Approved Member