I specialize in infidelity and addictions—most notably sex, porn, and love addiction and general couples work. I work with the individual who is acting out, or the partner, or both individuals in couples counseling as appropriate.
I also run a ongoing therapeutic group for men experiencing intimacy disorders: masturbation/porn, love/sex. co-occurring addictions, complex trauma and infidelity.
In addition to clinical training as a CSAT, I have advanced training in pastoral counseling, financial education, employee assistance and crisis management. I also am approved to facilitate the Prepare/Enrich assessment to help empower premarital and married couples.
I am a Employee Assistance Specialist - Clinical (EAS-C) through the Employee Assistance Professional Association and trained in Employee Assistance Program Critical Incident Response 3 (Resiliency) Approach by Robert Douglas. I am a consultant for R3 Continum and am trained in Advanced Individual Crisis Intervention and Peer Support. For many years I worked directly with first responders as a volunteer mental health peer for the Northern Illinois Critical Incident Stress Management Team. I use clinical supervision which expands clinical expertise, judgment and quality of care.
Over time, I have found individuals who are most able to benefit from our work together:
Offer and receive direct and honest feedback
Try new behaviors which may be uncomfortable
Understand no person (including a counselor) can "fix" another person
Appreciate a sense of humor
Are able to demonstrate honesty, authenticity and vulnerability
As with any relationship, therapy works best when there is trust, mutual respect, and a sense of connection. If you think we may be a good fit to work with one another, call me at 224-639-2607 or email me at Patrick@PatrickAmesCounseling.com to set up a 15-minute complimentary phone consultation. This phone call is used to assess the goodness of fit of a therapeutic match, not for treatment or diagnosis. If we find that we are not a good fit at the end of this phone call, I will give you referrals of therapists that might be a better match for you.
porn-induced erectile dysfunction
physical, sexual, emotional abuse
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