I specialize in infidelity and addictions—most notably sex, porn, and love addiction and general couples work. I work with the individual who is acting out, or the partner, or both individuals in couples counseling as appropriate.

I also run a ongoing therapeutic group for men experiencing intimacy disorders: masturbation/porn, love/sex. co-occurring addictions, complex trauma and infidelity.

In addition to clinical training as a CSAT, I have advanced training in pastoral counseling, financial education, employee assistance and crisis management.

I am a Employee Assistance Specialist - Clinical (EAS-C) through the Employee Assistance Professional Association and trained in Employee Assistance Program Critical Incident Response (Resiliency) Approach by Robert Douglas.  For many years I worked directly with first responders as a volunteer mental health peer for the Northern Illinois Critical Incident Stress Management Team.  I use clinical supervision which expands clinical expertise, judgment and quality of care.

Over time, I have found individuals who are most able to benefit from our work together:

  • Offer and receive direct and honest feedback

  • Try new behaviors which may be uncomfortable

  • Understand no person (including a counselor) can "fix" another person

  • Appreciate a sense of humor

  • Are able to demonstrate honesty, authenticity and vulnerability

As with any relationship, therapy works best when there is trust, mutual respect, and a sense of connection. If you think we may be a good fit to work with one another, call me at 224-639-2607 or email me at Patrick@PatrickAmesCounseling.com to set up a 15-minute complimentary phone consultation. This phone call is used to assess the goodness of fit of a therapeutic match, not for treatment or diagnosis. If we find that we are not a good fit at the end of this phone call, I will give you referrals of therapists that might be a better match for you.

Common Struggles

  • affairs/betrayal

  • co-occurring addictions

  • family conflict

  • grief/loss/bereavement

  • infidelity

  • intimacy disorders

  • love addiction

  • masturbation addiction

  • partner recovery

  • pornography addiction

  • porn-induced erectile dysfunction 

  • physical, sexual, emotional abuse

  • secrets that are hurting life and relationships

  • self-esteem issues

  • separation/divorce

  • sex addiction

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